Shadow Work Email Newsletter
Issue #16, September 2006

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SHADOW WORK NEWS AND VIEWS
Issue No. 16
September 2006
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IN THIS ISSUE:
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Section 1. The Super-Model Training: A New Training
      for Group Facilitators from Shadow Work
      Founder Cliff Barry
Section 2. Paul Dunion on "Shadow Marriage"
Section 3. News Bits
Section 4. Ups and Downs of Self-Help Books
Section 5. Final Thoughts


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SECTION 1. THE SUPER-MODEL TRAINING
For Facilitating the Six Loops that Operate in All Group
Dynamics, by Cliff Barry
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      As you know, if you know me, I love models.
      I don't mean the kind of models who wear
      sexy clothes in magazines, although they
      *are* pretty easy on the eyes. I mean the
      models that describe how things work.

      In the early 1990s, I developed the Shadow
      Work Model, which is a space model. That
      is, it defines the emotional space or
      "container" in which we process people's
      issues.

      For example, if all the emotions were
      present *in one space, at the same time*,
      there would be just four: anger, grief, joy
      and fear. Likewise, if all the archetypes
      were present *in one space, at the same
      time*, there would also be four: the Magician,
      the Sovereign, the Lover and the Warrior. ...

http://www.shadowwork.com/super-model-training.html


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SECTION 2. PAUL DUNION ON "SHADOW MARRIAGE"
by Alyce Barry
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      Paul Dunion has been a marriage counselor in
      private practice for 25 years. He's the author of
      the new book "Shadow Marriage: A Descent
      Into Intimacy," which offers brilliant and
      reassuring insights for couples. Paul and his
      wife, Connie, lead weekend retreats that
      reframe marriage not as a quest for happiness
      but as the hero's journey, where "irreconcilable
      differences" are cause for adventure instead
      of divorce. Paul and Connie, who live in
      Connecticut, were in Boulder recently,
      attending the Advanced Facilitator Training,
      and talked with me over breakfast.

      "People asked me if the subtitle, 'Descent
      Into Intimacy,' was going to scare people,"
      Paul says from the other side of a bare
      butcher-block table.

      In his fifties, with close-cropped, graying hair,
      Paul has a commanding gaze and a slight
      New England accent. His wife, Connie, slim
      with short hair, sits on his right next to a
      window through which we can see a
      cloudless Colorado sky.

      Paul pours himself some water from a carafe.
      "I said to them, 'When we translate the
      chapters into retreats, they're not scaring
      people at all. People are feeling relief.
      Marriage is getting framed in this book as
      a very intense initiation. The usual attitude
      is that there's something screwed up about
      you, hence your marriage isn't working." ...

http://www.shadowwork.com/shadow-marriage.html


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SECTION 3. NEWS BITS
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      The 2007 trainings are on the website calendar,
      including the one in Australia in late May:

      Calendar of Events

      Also on the calendar, you'll find these late
      autumn workshops:
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      Nov. 3 - 5 -- Cotswolds, England (residential)
      Nov. 3 - 5 -- Gauting, near Munich, Germany
      (for women, in German)
      Nov. 17 - 19 -- Frankfurt, Germany
      (for men and women, in English)
      Nov. 17 - 19 -- Louisville, Kentucky

      So far this year, three people have been newly
      certified as Shadow Work group facilitators:
      Ginny Drewes in South Carolina, John Miller in
      North Carolina, and Jeff Foster in Virginia.
      Two more may be joining them later this fall,
      for a total of five new facilitators attending the
      group's annual certification gathering in the
      Atlanta area in January.

      Newsletter editor Alyce Barry will teach a
      class at Longmont Free University in November
      and December, entitled "Mixed Nuts: Families
      During the Holidays." The class will offer a
      light-hearted look at the shadows that emerge
      during the holiday season.


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SECTION 4. UPS AND DOWNS OF SELF-HELP BOOKS
A Commentary by Alyce Barry
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      There have traditionally been two approaches
      in self-help books: what in Shadow Work we
      call the "uphill" and "downhill" approaches.

      The uphill approach judges success by an
      external standard. It tells the reader, "Follow
      these rules that I offer, and you will succeed."
      Success is a golden ideal written, as it were,
      in the sky. In order to reach the ideal, you,
      the reader, must ignore the resistance that
      rises inside you. If that becomes difficult,
      the uphill approach urges, "Just push
      through! Just don't think about that! Just use
      will-power!" What keeps you going through
      the inevitable trials is your dream of doing
      it perfectly because that guarantees your
      success

      The downhill approach, on the other hand,
      judges success by an internal standard. It
      tells you, "Look within for your true self, and
      learn to live it." ...

http://www.shadowwork.com/uphill-downhill-books.html


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SECTION 5. FINAL THOUGHTS
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      "The meeting of two personalities is like the
      contact of two chemical substances: if there
      is any reaction, both are transformed."

      -- Carl Jung

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